The Winner’s Way

I lived with my God parents when I was a little girl as my parents moved to a new area and had no one to take care of me. My Dada in particular adored me & I went everywhere with him, sitting in the front seat, like a little princess.

Every Friday, we would make our way to the Victoria Street market. Everyone knew me there ’cause I was quite a little chatterbox, asking questions and absolutely loving the attention I got. At the the tender age of 4, I was quite a little street smart kid and I remember the events of this day as if it was just yesterday despite it being more than 30 years ago. I was walking with my Dada in the first isle and as we passed the flower stall, I stopped to look at the pretty flowers and got talking to the uncle who sold them.

When I looked around, my Dada wasn’t there so I walked along the isle, looking for him but I couldn’t find him. I was worried that he will be looking for me so I decided that I needed to get to the car because he will have to go there. I knew I couldn’t cross the street by myself so I looked for someone to help me. I saw a lady in a scarf with her son. She looked nice so I went to her and told her my name, where I lived, what my telephone number was and what had happened. I asked her to please take me to the car to see if my Dada was there. I described the car and where we had parked.

When we got there, my Dada was already talking to a traffic cop reporting me missing and she told him of the story I told her. This story was told to all the kids even years later of how brave I was.

In this day and age, with so many horrible things happening to our children, we need to equip them on how to react. Of course things are different now and we are more mindful and aware but if they are equipped with a mindset of finding a way, they will not say that they can’t!!

There will always be situations that we think is too big but if we look hard enough, we will find a way to win, its called the WINNER’s Way mentality

Much love & blessings
Naomi

French Toast

French Toast

I woke up this morning craving French Toast. It’s one of my favourite things to eat and often takes me back to a time when I was just 28 years old, a single mom of 2 and not sure what my future held in store for me.

I used to eat it alot then!! Just 2 reasons why, 1 ’cause I really enjoyed it & 2 ’cause it was pretty much all I could afford. I remember standing at the window one day, having my french toast & feeling really broken. It was tough that year, very tough. It was Christmas time and I didn’t have much money for clothes or gifts for my children & I think that was my lowest point of my life. I felt pretty much like a failure & I’ll never forget the conversation I had with myself and GOD. .

I told him that I don’t know the plans he may have for me or why I am where I am right now. BUT I know that this isn’t where he wants to be & I know that I am worth so much more. Life may have knocked me down but it won’t knock me OUT. I don’t know how and I don’t know when but I have faith that 1 day I will be standing strong again!!

I will never in all my life forget that time in my life or standing at that window feeling the way I felt. It is times like that, that mould you to who you become. I may have felt like a failure but I never failed to try. Everyone in life has a battle they are fighting. We may do it whilst wearing beautiful clothes but on the inside we are warriors and conquerors.

I am not sure why I felt like French Toast today or why I remembered that story in particular. If it is you who is standing at the window, fear not, it too shall pass & when it does, it will make you stronger & a conqueror

Much love & blessings
Naomi

The HAND that ROCKS the CRADLE, RULES the WORLD

Like most great ideas, the idea of FABULOUS FEMALES @ IN PERFECT HARMONY came to me in the wee hours of the morning, in the still of the night at the break of dawn. I thought about all the incredible woman I get to meet every single day. The stories I hear that inspire & encourage me and I thought what an incredible blessing it would be to share them with the rest of the girls.

The fact is LIFE is a JOURNEY, not just a straight road but filled with roadblocks and speed-bumps, slight inclines and downward spirals. It doesn’t have to be traveled alone, this is a sisterhood of shared joys, laughter, encouragement and inspiration.

I read this piece a while ago and I thought I would share it with you.
You deserve only the best and may you find it,
May your dreams come true and your spirits soar.
May you find happiness in all the right places, and may it last forever more.
The strength of a WOMAN is not measured by the impact that all her hardships in life have had on her;
But the strength of a woman is measured by the extent of her refusal to allow those hardships to dictate her and who she becomes.
Woman are The Best Friends, Daughters, Sisters, Wives, Colleagues, Mothers.
Salute to all the Super Woman who Just Made Life look so easy by Managing all the fronts so Beautifully.
“The Hand That Rocks The Cradle, Rules The World”
God’s greatest gift to mankind is surely the presence of a woman in society in varied roles.
To all women everywhere, may you all be treated like goddesses and know that we appreciate you all.

For the ladies that have not joined our Facebook group, can I encourage you to and to encourage your friends to as well. Share your story as you never know who can be helped it.

Much love & blessings
Naomi

The legal EAGLE

A few days ago, my son turned 18. This is the reason why I decided to start there. I was just 18 when I found out I was having him. At first I saw all my dreams shattered and the things I wanted to do flow away. I felt angry, scared, sad & disappointed. I wondered what people would say, what my mother would say, that worried me the most!! As she saw the life she never had in me. I let her down too. A lot to feel at the age of 18.

I remember staring out the window just after the doctor told me and having a conversation with myself. It went something like this, “You have made your bed now you have to make it work! This isn’t what you planned but you can’t make your child pay for it. Your dreams become our dreams. I becomes we, mine becomes ours. Life won’t be easy but it isn’t impossible, so make your child proud!”

This was my pep talk to myself. My life’s goal thereafter became to make him proud, so that when he’s 18 (which is now) he will say he is proud of me. As I reflect on the years that have passed, I may not have been perfect. I made some bad choices which I call lessons well learnt. I may not have been the best or had the best, but I always did my best and that is what counts.

I was very emotional this week as he turned 18 knowing that it was my life’s mission was to make him proud. I believe that i have done the best I could. I instilled good values in him and I know that where ever he goes or whatever he does, he has been empowered to make the choices that are right for him.

This is something I wrote to him. I hope it encourages a young mother to keep on keeping on.
“To my darling son, the Legal Eagle
I was exactly your age when I found out I was having you. 18 years old and having a baby!! I remember glaring out the window then and telling myself, that I had to be the Very Best version of Myself for you. My life’s goal was to make you proud so that when you are 18, you will say that you are proud of me!!
Today as I reflect on your life, how you have transitioned from a boy into a man. I couldn’t be more happier in who you have become. You thought me, that my greatest accomplishment and grandest title is being called, “Mom”.
I wanted to make you proud but today as I look at you, I couldn’t be more prouder!! You have exceeded all my expectations. You are an incredible young man, filled with love and compassion for others, determination and focus in your life & a young man after God’s Heart. What more could a mother ask?
Now that you are a Legal Eagle. Always remember:
Always put God first and everything else will fall into place.
Home is always home, no matter where you go and what you do.
There is nothing that we won’t do for you and although you may not be a child, you will always be my child!!
I love you my son, always & forever!!
Happy birthday
I hope that in sharing my story with you, you have been encouraged.

Much love

Naomi

Onward & Upward

We have MOVED: Onward & Upward
Appreciation Post: With God, all things are possible!!
Most people love the concept of owning a business but very few realize the blood, sweat & tears that goes into actually running a business!! When I first thought of starting my brand, I had no idea of the challenges I might face. I remember my hubby asking me why I wanted the stress of running a business when my life was so comfortable at the time.
Looking back I now understand what he meant.. He didn’t mean it to hurt me but rather to protect me.. Being the strong willed person that I am (stubborn) I went ahead anyway and he has supported me all along the way.
Business hasn’t been as easy as I thought it would be. It took everything I had to build this brand from nothing. The stress of having people that relied on me, gave me the tenacity to push forward. I wanted to provide a good quality service at affordable price & failure wasn’t never an option!!
Earlier this year, I had 3 choices:
Increase our prices
Close our doors
Move our store
After many days & nights of pondering, I chose to bite the bullet & move!! Another move was tough, very tough but I couldn’t have done it without help!!
Thank you to my wonderful friends, family and my team of ladies who worked tirelessly to make it happen!! A very special and most sincere thank you goes out to my only brother, Dillon Govender from Magic Board & cupboards.. I don’t think I would have been able to have done it without you!! The quality of your work and your dedication to your client, has superseded my every expectation!!
To my awesome son, who has never left my side and worked tirelessly, I thank you my boy.. You are my super star!! To my amazing team, my sisterhood of sisters and most especially to wonderful husband for your constant encouragement and faith in me..
I am ever so blessed!! Here’s to a new journey, a fresh beginning..
The new home of In Perfect Harmony
Unit 1D First Floor Accord House
2 Golf Course Drive
Mount Edgecombe

Much Love & Blessings

Naomi

Collateral Beauty

Will Smith was amazing in the movie: Collateral Beauty
Last year, Jada Pinkett Smith, lashed out at the organisers of the Oscars as she claimed that her husband deserved at the least, a nomination for the movie, Collateral Beauty. At the time, I thought that she was just starting waves for Will but after watching the movie, I understand why she did what she did.

Will Smith played a successful New York advertising executive who suffered a great tragedy & retreats from life. While his concerned friends try desperately to reconnect with him, he seeks answers from the universe by writing letters to Love, Time & Death. When his notes bring unexpected personal responses, he begins to understand how these constants interlock in a life fully lived and how even the deepest loss can reveal moments of meaning & beauty. That is collateral beauty. Finding beauty even in the darkest times.

For In Perfect Harmony, this has been the worst year in business, facing all kinds of challenges & having to make difficult decisions based on them. I have had many moments when I wanted to throw in the towel but I had HOPE. Hope is a joyful expectation that something is coming/go going to happen to you. Without hope, we dwell in a place of dis-pear & what is life if it is lived in Darkness? Standing here now, I see why I chose hope and I am glad that I did.

We were backed into a corner & decided to move. After just 9 months of being there, it meant thousands to be quite literally trashed and even more thousands spent. Seeing us here now, I can actually thank those circumstances for if it wasn’t for them, I wouldn’t have been bold enough to be here now, in a store that personifies our brand. That is our Collateral Beauty, what is yours? Do you see it yet, if not, keep on pushing forward & you will soon.

Much Love & Blessings
Naomi

My JOURNEY tells a STORY

Having acne as an adult and even worse with my teenage son. In fact, we both were on Roacutane at the same time & can you imagine having 2 grumpy grumps in the same house at the same time? So not cool, right?? RIGHT!!

Whilst going through my Facebook profile earlier, I found an old picture of myself which was taken 20 years ago and as you can see, problem skin remained a constant. You gotta thank FACEBOOK, for keeping your pictures safe, even those that you want to forget.

Many of you already know about my battle severe skin conditions all my life, caused by PCOS which caused acne, scarring from acne, deep hyper pigmentation and pitted skin.

It became my passion to find treatments to help heal my skin & my Journey started with the Aesthet Skin Peel, which stopped the acne, removed the scars by acne, tightened pores & helped fade the deep hyper pigmentation. Thereafter Micro-needling which helped my pitted skin, smooth fine lines and dark circles, giving my over all well being with my skin.

Having clear skin has always been my greatest desire, something that I thought I would never achieve. Just the thought of walking in public, makeup free & confident in my own skin, seemed too good to be true!!!

THEN I took the first step towards the healing & repair of my skin and as most of you can see, with remarkable results but my quest for healthy skin didn’t stop there.

We collaborated with Skin Docs last month to bring you Gluthathione IV Drips & the various products they have to offer. This is where SCIENCE meets NATURE.

Why stop at having restored skin?? Why not RADIATE from the inside out. As most of you know, we will not market a brand that we do not try first. I have been on the Gluthathione Caps, the skin care regime & the collagen powder.

Not only do I feel exceptionally great, my skin has never been so healthy, it actually GLOWS. My Journey brought me from pain and despair to one of joy & confidence. I hope that you too can start your JOURNEY with us too.

Much LOVE & BLESSINGS

Naomi

The Pursuit of PAIN to PURPOSE

Nothing makes my work day more joyful than connecting with our clients. It may not always be in depth, soul searching conversations but getting to share a bit of myself with you’ll and you’ll with me, brings me such joy & perhaps for you too! It personalizes what we do, clients go from being a name penciled into our diary to friends & we walk this journey together.

When speaking to you guys, there’s always 2 things that are common when we speak about my emails. The first of course are the incredible deals and how we get it and then the little stories I share. The deals are a bit easier, the ladies and I chat about what we think you guys would like and we create packages around that.

The second thing we chat about are the stories I share. That on the other hand is a little more challenging. It takes time for me to think about what I would like to share and I find myself making mental notes of ideas as I want my emails to be of substance and not just another spam email.

So when I heard a teaching on Post Traumatic Growth Syndrome by Dr Robi Sonderegger at our church, this past weekend, I thought what an awesome message to share. He travels to the darkest areas of the world where disaster has hit helping them recover and grow from it. Things that are unimaginable are experienced by these people and whilst most of us have heard about Post Traumatic stress disorder, too few of us have heard about Post Traumatic Growth Syndrome. A new phenomenon where 20% of those affected will turn this pain into purpose. He went onto to teach that these 20% of people had 5 characteristics in common:

1. HOPE – Is is a free will choice that our tomorrow will be better than today & yesterday
2. FAITH – That no matter what it is, it too shall pass
3. GRATITUDE – Is a reset button that tells our brain that despite our circumstance, there is always something to be thankful for!
4. KINDNESS – There is no greater JOY than helping or being kind to someone other than ourselves
5. COURAGE – In taking the first step, in stepping away from our pain and walk towards our purpose

I was really encouraged by this teaching and I hope that you are too. We all have a right to be happy but we can never really be happy if we hold onto the things that hurt us.

Much love & blessings

Naomi

The GIFT

If you know me personally, then you know that I like to talk. I talk to everyone, from the cashier at the local convenience store to the car guard that assists me to my car. A warm hello to someone might not mean much to you but to them it might be everything. They become seen!! Which brings me to my next story, GIFT

Gift was my favourite beggar. Yes!! I have a favourite beggar. Every day he would be at the four way intersection begging. He was someone you would very easily not see. Most days he was dirty & messy but GIFT has this gentle, kind, sincere and funny spirit that I took a liking to. He would be there everyday until late evening & I am sure that just as he became apart of our daily life, so too did we.

I would keep small change for him, so that I knew that he would at least have something to eat that day. He would call me MA, very respectfully and wave at the kids in the car. He walked with a limp, most likely an injury that he got from begging. He wouldn’t expect anything and accepted everything I gave with a joyful smile & no matter what, he always blessed me.

The kids and I would giggle as we approached GIFT’s robot watching him. He would in the front begging but as he would see us, he would wobble to us briskly, trying not to miss us. There was 1 day that he wobbled across the intersection, almost galloping!! It was the funniest thing ever but I warned him not to do that as he would get hurt. Another day, he caught a snake & most likely kept it just for me. He came to my window and said, Ma, you like this?? Freaking me out totally and making us all burst into stitches. I always gave him no more than R5 and if he used it for the shelter or a haircut, he would proudly say so.

One day a family member asked me, “How can you give him money, what if he is taking drugs?” The truth is that I don’t know if he was but I never saw him in an induced state. I told her that, he didn’t choose this life and that life most likely brought him here. He has no home and no food but if I can give him just a few moments of kindness then that’s a gift to him. It gives him hope that there is still kindness out there.

We tell our children that they must be kind to others without showing them how to be kind. Children learn from example and action. These few moments with Gift gave us was so much more than the few Rands we gave him. I have thought my children empathy and we have funny stories to chat about.

What did GIFT get from us? A few rays of HOPE.

We stopped seeing GIFT this year. We often talk about him and without fail, every time I drive past his intersection, I think of him. He was dirty, stinky & smelly but his spirit and joy despite his circumstance is something that will stay with me always

Let’s take a moment to appreciate everything we have in life for there is always someone who wishes they have what we do!!

Rest in Peace GIFT

Much Love
Naomi

The Principal’s WAY

My Principals way
Hi guys, thank you for the positive feedback I received last week from my email story. I really am delighted that it made an impact, however big or small.

Many of you may already know my little girl, Arazelle. She’s a little diva, the most gentlest & sweetest child. Well most of the time that is, except Mornings. Most morning she’s moody & grumpy child and that is the absolute worst time for this!!!

So, in our home, we would have the battle of the GREATS. Who is the stronger and firmer one and who will get their way. It’s always a challenge dealing with a 5 year old so I would say to her what my principal used to say to us at school, “Arazelle, you have 2 choices, the EASY way or the HARD way, you choose!!” Most days I would win as most principals do but I have to admit that it was very unpleasant, the screaming, shouting, crying, moaning and groaning and I thought that I have to find a better way.

Now, I wake her up a little earlier and out comes the tickle monster!! She is laughing and giggling, screaming of a different kind. She is often stretching for more tickles and instead of moaning & groaning, we have laughter & joy. Which got me thinking, that in life we have the power to chose. We can either dwell in whats making us uncomfortable or chose to for it to stop. It applies to everything not just a grumpy 5 year old. We have just 1 chance at living, why not do it by being happy? Happy with the little things and the big things automatically come!!

Lots of Love
Naomi